Divorcing a Narcissist


 Getting A Divorce?

Take Control.  Don’t Be Afraid To Find Out How To Survive A Divorce
because  if there is a narcissist in the picture complexity escalates.

(This divorce and this book is dedicated to my ex and his tax returns, his amended tax returns, the hidden invoices, the invisible invoices, the double set of books and the triple set and hiding it all until one day, he said, ‘I owe you a lot of money’ and walked off with it all.   Also dedicated to his Palo Alto attorney Jeffrey Kaufman who helped him hide it and told the pro tem, “Fraud is no big deal and we’re going to blame it on Ann.”

 But thanks to Judge Kathleen Lucero who didn’t believe either one of them, sanctioned them $10K for obstructionism and delay and ruled in my favor.  And to the CA 6th Dist Court of Appeals where, when they appealed,  told them, “go away, you harmed her, what do you think you have to complain about?”  And to PTH, who stayed with me, on a $1000 retainer for 2 years.  And to MC, an attorney who believed in me, believed mothers should not be hit over the head with a 2×4 and offered to loan me money.  I honor the ethics, compassion and intellect of people like yourselves.)

“Narcissistic Abuse in the Picture?
You Need Answers!”

Are you getting out of a bad marriage with a narcissist, sociopath,  abuser or control freak?  If so, I know you’ve had enough and you’re ready to get a divorce.

… discover the hidden dangers of divorce that can DESTROY your life…

…Here’s what everyone needs to know about divorce, but probably doesn’t.  Before you file for your divorce  – or even if you already have – STOP right now.

Listen to this free audio call on How Not To Pick A Divorce Attorney

https://www.divorceandlawyers.com/annondivorcelawyers.mp3

 and if you need more, this book is foundational – based on real life experience in a Silicon Valley divorce that ended with the author writing her own winning brief in the Court of Appeals. Narcissists take you far, but you can win. This is the story. Write your own ending to yours.

From: Ann Bradley

RE: Your Divorce

A narcissist has a need to destroy to feel better. Many threaten: “I will grind you into the ground until you are gone.”  The narcissist cannot understand there is anything abnormal and evil in his actions.  The narcissist is aware only of his universe and his sense of entitlement overrides any pain he inflicts. Stealing doesn’t matter as long as he doesn’t get caught.  When caught, he does not apologize. Only by blaming and belittling can he feel good.  My divorce, the lawyers and the legal system are chronicled in DIVORCE: The Real Truth, The Hidden Dangers, Surviving Deception, Betrayal and Narcissism

But what you have ahead of you is a long difficult road, that no one – male or female – is ever prepared for.

 

Why?

 

Because divorce is one of those things that most people assume they know how it works  – and what you should do  if you are in the middle of one.

But divorce is a secret club with many things you never heard about. And divorce lawyers have secrets they don’t want you to find out about.

Naivete in divorce is dangerous.  If you have a deceitful and uncooperative spouse, you need information, a roadmap and a plan. Otherwise you lose custody, money, and everything you’ve spent a lifetime building.

Divorce attorneys use unethical and just plain wrong tactics to try to “win” the divorce. They throw out accusations and lies to defraud the court so they can get a win.

 

These are the types of people you’re going to have to deal with in your divorce, and if you’re not prepared you’re going to be in for a terrible ride.

 

Trust me, I’ve been through a horrific and downright awful experienceof my life in the form of divorce, and you need to listen to every word I’m about to say, here is…

 

How I Survived One Of The Most
Difficult Ordeals Of My Life…A
Divorce From A Narcissistic Husband And His Unethical Attorney

 

Divorce is always difficult for everyone involved, and its especially hard on the children if there are any.

 

If marriage is about love, divorce is about money, power, control, and the manipulation of an unethical legal system.

THE DIVORCE INDUSTRY

Divorce is a huge industry. This book explores the culture of divorce in a dysfunctional legal system and what this means to you. Divorcing a narcissist makes every problem worse.
Although my husband had told me hid assets and I had the evidence, we ended up at trial. His lawyer was a typical “scorched earth policy” divorce attorney.  Dirty tactics in divorce? You bet.
For most people divorce is one of the only times they’ve probably ever had to stand up for themselves in life, and many are unprepared. But many men fall into that category too. Divorce is for the lawyers…everyone pays.

 

I was no different.

 

My ex-husband was probably one of the most difficult people to deal with in divorce, period. This man was a complete narcissist and helped by a greedy attorney.

SURVIVE DYSFUNCTIONAL DIVORCE!
Many women from this generation are socialized to be “nice”. Part of this socialization process means that you trust what people tell you, look out for others before yourself, and give when asked.

Are you vulnerable to lies? Do you know what tactics lawyers use? Do you know what the “mommy tax” is? Is your divorce high conflict or stalking through the legal system? Why do narcissists keep on fighting?

Why did a Professor of Psychology write a book called ‘Whores of The Court’ and what does this have to do with your divorce?

I was ripe for attack in the divorce process. Put this together with a narcissist and his narcissistic lawyer and the war was on.  I survived by wearing a metaphorical badge called “Target”. I wore this to remind myself I really was targeted and not insane.
He made my life a complete living hell for over four years as we went through a complicated mess of a divorce, most of it spurred on by his lawyer.

 

I nearly lost everything, including my financial well-being, my health, and my love of life.

 

I was sick, my son got sick too, and we were both victims of a sick and dysfunctional system where corruption, greed, and money override everything.

 

From hiding large amounts of income, to withholding child support payments, to trying to “starve me out” so he and his attorney could get us to settle, my ex-husband did everything he could to make the divorce a nightmare. He even took me to the Court of Appeals.